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Muscle memory is a common term in fitness.

Most of the time, it’s used to describe how the body regains strength or size more quickly after time away. The idea is that muscle fibers retain past work and adapt more quickly once training resumes.

Muscle memory isn’t limited to physical adaptation alone.

A movement can also bring back a sense of familiarity and connection to a version of someone you haven’t felt aligned with in a long time. Sometimes the body remembers before the mind does, and being present for that kind of recall, as a trainer, carries its own weight.

I had a client who came to me after a traumatic back injury from a fall that ended her professional dancing career early. She had completed the rehabilitation and, on paper, had made a full recovery. But the injury left behind chronic pain and apprehension.

She was referred to me by a colleague who thought I’d be a good fit, given my background working with injuries as both a trainer and a massage therapist. By the time we met, she wasn’t looking to return to dance. She just wanted to move again without feeling like every decision carried risk.

During our consultation and assessment, I noticed how carefully she approached everything. She hesitated before sitting, before standing, before shifting positions. The anxiety of getting hurt again had become familiar enough that it showed up in her body language before she spoke about it.

Injury teaches you to monitor yourself closely, even when you’re technically cleared to move on.

On days like that, I think in terms of mental state. How alert someone is. How guarded. How much they’re trying to manage.

When the nervous system is busy protecting, strength takes a back seat. It’s not the priority.

As a coach, there’s a skill in knowing how to work within that reality without diminishing what strength training can offer or even turning a session into something it isn’t meant to be.

Before her injury, her body was something she relied on; after, it became something she monitored. If she was going to transition from rehabilitation to independently maintaining her movement, someone had to bridge that gap, which meant carefully choosing movements so we could introduce a physical challenge in a way her nervous system could actually handle.

So we started with positions that prioritized awareness before effort.

I watched her breathing and eyes to see how quickly she wanted to move on when something felt unfamiliar.

There’s a kind of coaching judgment that lives in knowing when to say less and when to let a movement speak for itself while still asking the brain to solve a coordination problem.

That progression led us to the balance beam.

I wanted to introduce a different kind of feedback tool that demanded more focus but was familiar enough to feel approachable.

She looked at it and smiled. Then she paused.

I told her the goal wasn’t to take a step unless she felt safe enough to take the next one.

The first few steps were careful. Her gaze softened, and the room got quiet. Halfway across, she stopped and laughed under her breath.

“This feels familiar,” she said.

Then she went quiet again and continued forward. With each step, her body looked more confident.

She told me she could picture exactly how she used to place her foot when she was dancing. She didn’t have to think about it. Her body was doing the work it already knew how to do.

Her eyes filled up with tears, but she didn’t lose her balance. The emotion didn’t interrupt her movement. Balance didn’t disappear when feelings surfaced. If anything, it reinforced it.

After she stepped off, we stood there for a moment without talking.

Moments like that are delicate, and it’s tempting to label them. To turn them into lessons or meaning-making. But part of being a coach is knowing when not to interfere and letting the nervous system finish what it started.

There’s an aspect of movement that isn’t ours to control or overthink. And it’s not our role as a trainer to therapize it. These moments are often called breakthroughs, but I don’t think of them that way.

They aren’t rare or mystical.

They happen more often than we realize when the conditions are right.

When movement is approached with curiosity, we are free from expectation.

Good coaching is about creating fit conditions.

Sometimes what surfaces is strength. Sometimes it’s confidence. Sometimes it’s memory.

We talk a lot about exercise in terms of performance or appearance and less often about how it shapes awareness.

Movement has a way of reconnecting us to ourselves when it’s approached as a practice rather than a demand. Working out doesn’t have to be about looking a certain way. It can be a way of appreciating what your body is capable of now, without comparing it to what it used to be.

A way to explore how you respond to challenge, uncertainty, and change.

On that beam, this client wasn’t trying to be anything. She was present, and in that moment, her body reminded her of something that had never left; it was only waiting for the right conditions to return.

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